I’m sure you’re surprised that I’ve actually been posting of late. Don’t worry; so am I. I was thinking about my blog a couple of weeks ago and just feeling so down about the fact that I started this blog for me and to make myself feel good and then I let go of it a bit, thus feeling less good.
I partially blame my slight over-addiction to Tumblr, where I run a blog as well, but without all of the actual writing blog posts bit and more of the reblogging pictures of butts and articles on social justice bit.
So, I have a bailing habit. I find something pretty and useless and bail on the slightly more useful and definitely more emotionally effective thing I had before. If you didn’t catch that: I sacrificed my soul to Tumblr Satan and spent time forgetting all about my website over here at WordPress.
So it makes almost no sense that I would be frustrated and irritated with somebody who did basically the same thing to me in real life. I am aware that I will choose swimming over garden work and kissing over hugging, etc. I know that my habit is one that mostly just makes me seem like a gigantic douchebag all of the time…but the one thing I don’t do is make plans with someone over plans I already had.
Say that Cindy and Matthew are going to go to the mall on Friday. They’ve been planning this for a couple of day and Cindy has been saving money to buy some things and she’s super pumped. Suddenly, on the day of the Mall Trip, Matthew says he met a girl yesterday and is going on a date with her today.
Of course, Cindy is happy that Matthew met a girl, but hey, ‘bros before hos’ and all those other cliches and she feels really left out and ditched. The reason for this isn’t just because Matthew made other plans. It also involves the fact that Matthew and Cindy have known each other for a long time and he is bailing on Cindy for a girl he just met.
Now, my situation is not really like that. But it is, kind of.
If a person messages you and wants to hang out and you alter your plans around this person so that you can spend time together, that person should definitely pick up the fucking phone when you call them when you get home.
So basically I had plans with Nicholas. And then Josh messaged me. And I was like: Hey I already have plans and so you’re gonna have to wait OR I will be home before nine and I can call you at nine to make plans. He said that was perfect and things would work out great from there.
When I went to Nicholas’s place, the family invited me to go to the drive-in with a whole bunch of other people I enjoy being around. I had to, sadly, decline because I already had plans with Josh. Or DID I?
Spoiler Alert: I didn’t and I sat home for the rest of the night on the computer while watching Downton Abbey with my mom.
So the lesson is: If you want to make plans with me and you say ‘call at this time’ or ‘let’s hang out at this time’ or, worst of all ‘I’ll be there in half an hour’ and then you fail to come through with picking up the phone, following through, or SHOWING UP…
Don’t make plans with me because I will be very sad, still forgive you, and my quality of life will go down because you continually disappoint me.
Side Note: If something serious came up for you (i.e, doctor, car accident, ran out of gas, phone broke, family emergency, etc), I won’t be disappointed by you, but I would hope that, if you could, you let me know that there was a crisis and that we will have to reschedule.